Relationship Rescue and Child/ Teen Behaviour Mangement Services
available from the owner of Pink Bubblez™- 'The Child Listener™'

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The Child Listener™ specialises in helping parents
and teachers learn to listen to children
and teenagers - and hear the words that are
not spoken, as well as to more accurately
interpret what is being said.

Understanding children allows us to gain a greater insight into the 'why'
of unwanted - and wanted!- behaviour, so that we can work more effectively
towards long term goals, rather than using a quick fix/ band-aid type approach.

A few words from The Child Listener™

Parenting is tough- regardless of how many children you may have,
or how much experience you may have they are all different. So how
can we parent all children in the same way and expect to meet
their individual needs? What works for one may not work for others-
so you need to get ahead of the game and learn how to 'get' each child.
If you understand how they think, react, what they need etc- you can
help them develop to their potential far more effectively.

To do this really well you need to first understand your own ideas
relating to parenting - address your own experiences as a child and
belief system about what 'parenting' is- and learn from this.
We all tend to think our way is the right way- and sometimes that can
block us from finding a better way, that works for everyone.

I love working with adults who want to be the best parent they can
be - who realise they will never be perfect- and are fine with that, and
at the same time strive to be better! They are
strong enough emotionally to be able to let their kids know they mess
up too- it's a great way to learn! - and that everyone can learn from
one another. They realise they dont have all the answers and are excited
by the journey of life, with their family by their side. Even when everyone
has a different opinion there can still be humour and love. Being
'right' isnt the name of the game for these family members!

One of the first questions I ask parents is - what do you
want for your child for the future?
If you want them to be happy, well-adjusted, independent, confident
adults then what you do today determines if they will achieve this.
If you consider that every interaction you have with your child will
have an impact on their development, and future, then perhaps
those interactions should become more positive and meaningful?
Perhaps you might even begin to analyse those interactions, and be more
proactive with regards to ensuring that every interaction
is a learning experience?

I believe that this is part of what truly insirational parenting is
about- growing, learning (you as well as them) and being amazing people!
Instead of focussing on the behaviour you dont want, focus on how
you are teaching your child what you do want and how you are teaching
them to express themselves, how to be kinder people who also know
what they want from life, and how to get it.

We need to be less reactive, less focussed on behaviour- and parent
with a more solutions based approach. When your child throws her
juice in anger across the room how many of you tell her we dont throw
things- and then ask her why she is angry, an try to help her express
her feelings more appropriately? So many of us miss out that 'teaching'
step - we miss the 'guiding' and 'learning' part, to focus on
'controlling' unwanted behaviour. When a child behaves in a way
that is socially unacceptable find out why- and work out how to teach
them a different way to behave when they feel hurt, angry etc. How many
adults do you know who cant do that- they lash out when angry,
behave in anti-social or unkind ways. How different this would be if
they had learned as a child that there are other ways!

If she asks something - she wants a lolly or a toy- and you say 'no'
- how are you teaching her to negotiate, or to express her feelings
and handle not getting something she would like? A 'no' leaves no room for anything- it's a brick wall- and most people who hear that word
don't feel valued, or listened to - and react accordingly.
'No' is a word I remove from my vocabulary with children - there are
other ways to handle situations that enable both parties to remain
calm and still feel positively connected to one another.
Let me share them with you!

Another behaviour I remove completely is the raising of voices. To anyone!
But especially children- it changes who they are.
Once you do that the other person stops listening, and you are
out of control. Is that really what you want? Again, I help people
figure out ways to express themselves - without shouting or using
a negative dialogue. How we argue and disagree with others is something
many of us need to re-learn - for our own sakes as well as that of
our children, partner and friends!

So that's where I feel I come in- sharing experiences and ideas to
help you go that step further and parent for the future, rather than
just 'controlling' situations in the moment. If your child - of any age-
knows that you will listen to what they need, empathise with how they
feel, and try to work with them rather than against them, you will see
great results when they are adults. They will have learned, from you,
how to intereact with others.
YOU teach them how to behave in the world. So 'be' who you
want them to be!
I also hope I can teach you how to express yourself in ways that
work better for you- , and enable others to understand you. You'll get
far more of what you want and need.
Teach others how to listen to you! It's not just
children who want to be listened to - it's all of us.

When I am working with couples - 'Relationship Rescue' - one of the
main things I hear from both sides is that their partner doesn't listen to them.
Often they are incorrect- their partner is listening!- at least for the
first few minutes anyway :-)
What they arent doing well is understanding- and without understanding
they can't give their partner what they need. So if I
can teach you to really listen- this will help you understand and relate
to your children- and also help you develop more meaningful and
mutually rewarding relationships with the adults in your life.
Your kids will see how you are able to listen to, and emplathise with others
(even when you dont agree with them) and learn to do the same.
Think how different society would be if we were to all stop taking,
and start listening.
So let's start with our children.

Please join me! Let's start creating calmer,
kinder and happier families. YOU DESERVE IT!

Emma:-)

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'The Child Listener™' - Emma Hartnell-Baker (owner of Pink Bubblez™)
is a qualified Life Coach, has a BEd Hons, and an MA (specialising in
Behaviour Management, Counselling, Personal Social and Emotional
Development and also Dyslexia) from Nottingham University.

Emma was appointed by the UK Government
(Office for Standards in Education) as an Inspector of Education
and Childcare, and is a world re-known advisor for families and schools
- relating to positive behaviour management strategies. Emma is also the
and founder of ‘Read Australia’- aiming to empower parents through
knowledge, working together to raise standards of literacy across
Australia. Around 20% of our kids aren’t reading to the desired level
at age 10 – help Emma to change this!
Please see www.ReadAustralia.com for more info.

The Child Listener™ offers private consultations, family therapy and
in-service training within Queensland, Australia
She has also created 'Pink Bubblez™'- on the Gold Coast- and her available
time is limited, so please book well in advance. Click Here for information
about Workshops for Parents - join a supportive group and share ideas
and learn new strategies from The Child Listener™

Or Ph 0-7 5510 9960 to book an initial 90 minute private consultation
- $165 - parent/s only Hourly rate is then $125 - or $95 for
children/ teens (50 min session)


Sessions are held within Emma's office- Pink Bubblez™
- Pinnaroo St, Santa Barbara - on the Gold Coast Queensland


Contact The Child Listener™ today!

Let's leave living in judgment and 'being right' at the door- moving
forwards in a positive manner, towards a brighter future"
The Child Listener, 2009

More info here soon- Including her Positive Parenting Workshops
and 'Learning to Listen to Children and Teenagers' Program

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